Implements

Wooden

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Leather

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Daddys Belts!!



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Plastics

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We have others, but this gives you and idea of what we use....
There should be a photo of a bar of soap and some ginger here as well!
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The last thing here, the red whips, Daddy has not use that on me. He says he doesn't think he would have a level of control over it that he is comfortable with. Also fears most of the impact might land on my hips and sides instead of my bum...

Sometimes I wonder if DD is really helping me

So this week was a rough one. Started out bad and just got worse or at least that's how I am feeling. I don't know how to talk to Daddy about things that bother me or I don't agree with. It just spirals out if control and next thing we know it a big fight and we are just slinging mud. I got my Sun night maint spanking last night and it was harder and longer the nirmal since it had been such a bad day. afterwords I tried to have a calm chat with him about what had happens that day and how it made me feel. I feel like I am not allowed to get upset or angry anymore and I don't feel like I am being heard in my home or in some areas that are important to me in my marriage. This is the 4 time this week that I went to him with something and walked away with no conclusion that I can accept. Instead what I say during these conversations is used against me. Now I don't handle these chats well either, I feel under attack and get disrespectful, which just makes things worse. I got punished a second time last night, much harder then earlier. This time for leaving our bed to go sleep in the guest room. Around midnight he woke and realized I wasnt in bed and came and found me. I was the reminded what happens when a wife forgets her place and leaves her husbands bed with out permission and feels like she can do whatever she wants because she is upset with him. I woke up feeling confused and lost this morning. Daddy said every marriage has bumps and that's all this week was, just a bump. I am not sure that's all it was, but he is right that we have a good thing between us and we need to focus on that right now. Tommorow we head in our separate directions for the next two weeks, so tonight we will have a nice meal and I'm sure I will go to bed with a red hot bum, but as long as I get to snuggle after, I will willingly accept it.

Tuesday meltdown, Two nights of red hot tail

As I write this I am sitting on a very sore bottom. First I want to reflect on what happened last night and why it happened. 

On Tuesday Daddy called to say he wouldn't be home that night, things were not going well on the job site and he was needed. He tried very hard not to travel during our scheduled time together, but some times it has to happen. This was suppose to be a one night trip that was now going to be two. At this point I am sure that he was just as disappointed as I was, but instead of saying that and then being supportive,  I said nothing and slowly got more and more upset as the day went on. I felt myself spiraling out of control as the hours passed. I was upset, but not really sure why, I just knew I wanted Daddy home with me and felt like it didn't really bother him that he wasn't going to be. This was not a good way of thinking about what was going on and it wasn't fair to my husband either. I ended up lashing out at Daddy and was hurtful in the way I acted, the tone I used, and the things I said. He knew I was slipping up and tried to help my put the breaks on, he lectured me about the fact that I was out of line and had me put my cream on. I was still very upset and sent a few un needed texts, they were not the hateful texts I would have sent a few months ago, but they were still filled with anger. daddy called and again told me I was out of line and I was able to force myself to calm down by thinking about how hurt i would be if he treated me that way. By bed time I felt pretty awful, The day had started out well and I had been happy and excited. I had been doing so much better with everything since we stepped up our focus on DD.
I asked for DD, I knew it would help our marriage and it really has made a big difference. We are more in love, stronger as a couple, we handle conflicts better and communicate better. I have come to hate punishment spankings, but I also understand that this is the purpose of them. I know its not easy for my husband to give me punishments either. A maintenance session hurts and normally makes me cry, but doesn't bring me to tears (crying doesn't always mean tears for me, i fight tears because they usually are followed by a headache and exhaustion). I find the maintenance sessions effective as a reminder to behave. I am sore and tender after and when we use the ginger hurts alot. I do feel  super sexy laying on the bed with my bottom pushed in the air and my legs spread, knowing that my husband is going to spank me and fill my pussy with ginger to help me stay on track and focus, I have worked on taking all my disciplines better, staying in place during spankings and not fussing during other things. I still have a ways to go, but i do understand that it is my job to be submissive and accept these sessions and to the best of my ability to not make Daddys job of giving them to me harder. (About tears during punishment, I thing that when I cry during spankings it is as much from disappointment with myself for behaving so badly as well as for hurting my husband by not handling myself like a  proper young lady as it is from the pain of the swats. I can clearly remember each spanking that had brought me to tears and why I got them, 6 total over the last 2 years.. up until last nights spank, each time there were tears, Daddy had been very mad still during the spanking and I was not only afraid of the spanking but also of how mad he still was. last night, he was not still angry. we had time to think about it. I had already said I was sorry and I was truly sorry. It was the first time I was also very ready to accept a sever spanking because I knew it had been earned. Daddy spanked as hard as ever, because he had to, not because he was mad. and that had a very deep affect on me. The stern disciplinarian and the gentle husband at the same time. When I was told to lay on the bed for my second round of swats, the tears were flowing, for many reasons.) I worked hard to take my spanking well last night because I knew it was my own fault. I had know I would be facing the red paddle ( the most hated of all our implements) and it was right that he choose to use it. Its for when I have been a bad girl and thats what had happened. After one round with the cane, we had to stop since my bottom was blistered. I will have another session to face tonight, but I am surprised by the fact that I don't find this unfair. I didn't get my full spanking last night for safety reasons and I need it to learn this lesson fully as we'll as stay focused, so I will do my best to not fuss to much tonight and accept it like a good girl. Daddy said last night that we still have alot of work  to do. As much as that made me scared of the many necessary punishments that statement implied, it also really drove home the point that we are doing this together and that everything affects us both, wither it be my behavior or one of the many forms of discipline. We have each other to lean on and help through the rough parts and that makes it  a lot easier to handle. 6 months ago Tuesday would have ruined our whole week and I would have ended up getting a whipping, but we wouldn't have talked about the problem. I would have been angry about being treated so harshly and he would have been angry that I wouldn't take responsibly for any wrong doing, even thought I started the whole thing. It would have turned into a major issue in our marriage. Instead, we had a few hours where I was out of sorts, he lectured me down off the edge before it blew up. I realized I was in the wrong and took responsibility. We spent some time talking about it and we will do so again tonight. I have been punished, but I am not resentful I am grateful. We will come with a plan to avoid this problem in the future.. Instead of a week of fighting and strife, we had a few bad hours and a few days of working together and coming even closer together. That is why we do DD and I am lucky to have a husband who has decided not to let me ruin what we have and forces me to learn and grow and who learns and grows with me.

Rules and Punishments

Rules ---- to be followed at all times

No swearing at people or using very bad words
No texting and driving
Wear bluetooth when driving
No sending nasty text messages
Be respectful and keep attitude in check.
Ask before having any adult drinks.
Never, EVER hang up on Sir.
  

Daily / Weekly rules ---- things that must be done daily or on certain days

1.Vitamins for me each day
2. Vitamins for the kids each day
3. Charge bluetooth each night with phone.
4. Be up by 730 in Midwest and 630 in Northeast
5 Kids to school by 8.10 am each school day
6 Kids in bed by 830pm
7 Me in bed by 10pm
8 Work out 15 min on Mon, Wed, Fri
9 Clean self (enema) out on Sun, Wed, Fri
10 Home school stuff with little one, 45 min each day Mon - Fri
11 finish chores each day, set them at night with Sir.

Punishments  
1. Sunday and Wed are maintenance nights (both when we are together or apart 
2. Spankings ( whenever Sir feels they are needed and as long/hard as needed)
3. Loss of privileges ( Internet, IPad games, texting, ect.)
4. Mouth washed out with soap
5. Ginger root 
6. Pussy Balls, Anal Plugs or Nipple Clips
7. Anal sex
8. Early bed time
9. Time out / corner time
10. Grounding
11. Cream on bottom, makes it burn like I have just been spanked


We have a need for so many punishments as we are apart often and I am a bit of a spanko and we both enjoy some BDMS aspects in our bedroom activities.